Marriage Isn't For Me

I have been seeing an article shared on Facebook a lot in the last couple weeks and have been thinking more about how marriage works.

Last week we had a wonderful Relief Society lesson about the growing problems with pornography and chastity among women of the church and some great things were pointed out about building a lasting relationship.

1. Social Compatibility

2. Intellectual Compatibility

3. Emotional Intimacy

4. Spiritual Intimacy

5. Physical Intimacy (after marriage)

 

If you don't build up to these ways of connecting with someone and jump right to physical intimacy, the rest of the growth gets stunted and the whole relationship is weakened.

Satan will always imitate God's virtues to justify our sins.  If a relationship is built on lust (a cheap imitation of love) then it is being built on a sandy foundation that isn't likely to last.  Sexual sin warps peoples ability to feel and understand God's true love.

 

True love includes God and does not take your partner farther away from their Savior.

So, the foundation is important.  Wholesome activities and getting to know each other on the first 4 levels before marriage is important.

Keeping in mind that marriage is the beginning and not the end is important because it takes work to stay in love.  Couples need to continue progressing together.

 

 

So how does love last?

What makes a successful and happy marriage?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/seth-adam-smith/marriage-isnt-for-you_b_4209837.html

hit it right on the head.

Marriage isn't about you.  It is about making the other person happy.  It is about each person giving 100% to the care of the other.

If couples truly did everything to make the other person happy then there would be zero divorces.

Divorces happen because of selfishness.  That is the only reason.

Divorce happens when one or both person(s) starts caring more about pleasing themselves than their spouse.

I may not be a marriage expert, but I have a happy marriage in spite of being a child of divorce.

If you want a marriage to last then be committed to do what it takes to make the other person happy.  You can't control if they will choose to do the same, but you will never regret that you did your best to make it last.
Marriage is sacred and if you treat it like you want it to last then it will be the best thing that ever happened to you!

Know your spouse's love language

Plan weekly dates to go out together

Communicate about what you like and what you don't like

Keep your covenants
Treat them how you would like to be treated
The more you serve, the more you will love those you are serving (another reason Christ loves us to much) and the more they will want to serve you in return.
Marriage is ordained of God because he knows how much happiness marriage can bring and how essential families are to the eternal happiness of His children.
I love being married to my best friend and having someone to laugh with, cry with, someone who supports and encourages me in my goals and helps me be better.
I am so lucky.